‘Her death was preventable’: Andy Barr channels grief into bill honoring his late wife-rollcall: Most of us are familiar with Kübler-Ross’ five stages of grief. Rep. Andy Barr knows them entirely too well — his wife, Carol, died suddenly last June, just a few weeks shy of her 40th birthday. In the last few months, Barr’s worked through denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance, but there’s still one more step to go: lawmaking.